Crack Your Codependency Code has been a long time in the healing and a few years in the creating! You may know, a portion of my purpose is to teach what I myself most need to learn. I originally learned of my own codependence back in 2015. It was a big nut to crack… Our awareness always kicks-off our healing!

Originally, I was shocked to learn I was codependent. The part of me that was very proud of my independence thought… This can’t be true?! Yet, when faced with undeniable proof, the evidence was everywhere! It was a lot to unravel. And, it is continuously freeing as I learned to have healthy relationships with others without losing myself. I have learned that codependence and narcissism both run a spectrum. It is easy to spot people who are at the high end of the spectrum of both of these traits. If you have people in your life with a high degree of either, you may know who they are and can see some of how it’s affecting them and those around them. As you go lower on the spectrum, both codependence and narcissism can be very covert. Because it is important for you to see, we will be covering narcissism (in all its covertness) in the program, it won’t be where we focus most. Your power is in YOU and that will be our focus!

I have heard codependence referred to as self-love love deficit disorder, and found this to be true. Humans are not adept at loving themselves and there is a definite correlation between how little we love our self and how many codependent patterns we’ve learned and adopted over time. Because codependence is a pattern that helped us survive, it doesn’t always look as dysfunctional as it feels. Codependence is rampant and wears countless masks. We are going to help you see the patterns. When we see things clearly, it gives us better options and choice vs. allowing the pattern to play out covertly. Many people (I was many people) don’t realize the negative effects these covert patterns have on our relationships and how this interferes with our health and well-being. We feel it but we don’t see it for what it is because, well, it’s the way it’s always been.

Codependence is a trauma response and comes from not getting our needs met as a child. We are in many of our codependent patterns by the age of 7! It was the dysfunctional way we learned to get our needs met, when it wasn’t happening… And, it worked! We survived!! But if we want to thrive in life and in our relationships, we need to make better choices around our patterns. What fascinates me is, we all learned to “dysfunction” differently! Codependence not only runs a spectrum (in terms of degree) but it is a subgroup of traits that creates a variety of issues. This makes it different in each person’s experience, albeit with lots of overlap.

This is why we’ve called this class Crack Your Codependency Code.

Oliver and I will help you crack the code of your own codependence and teach you how to heal it so you feel safe, sane and secure in your Self and in all of your relationships! Most have grown up learning to hide what doesn’t feel good. Our patterns of codependence are typically masked by either our empathic nature or our intelligence and over-endured strength. And, if you are an over achiever like me (blows on my polished fingernails and rubs them on my shirt!) you destructively mask it with the combo platter of all of the above! When healing codependence, total honesty is critical AND a sense of humor so helpful! I’m sure you’ve heard the 11th commandment… Though Shalt Not Bullshit Thyself! 😉 It applies here!


Is codependence lurking behind your warm and empathic nature?
Being empathic and being codependent are two very different things. Yet, the traits of the two are all too often confused. Not all codependents are empaths. Yet many empaths struggle with codependence. If you feel over-burdened as an empath, codependence could be the real culprit… Not your empathic nature and abilities. I think we can all agree that empaths feel deeply. Getting enough distance from the overwhelm is important. When you don’t take the space you need, you make emotional decisions that are not in your best interest and can be manipulative. It’s important to know that your empathic nature is beautiful gift. It also faces some unjust and harsh criticism from empaths themselves, as well as some of the people in their lives. I have worked with a lot of empaths who think they must be getting it wrong or question why they ended up with this “gift”! When empaths learn to process their emotions and heal their codependence, they find wisdom replaces FEAR and relief replaces anxiety, and so much more.
 
Empaths are natural healers. Codependence can prevent us from understanding our own inner guidance and trusting our innate abilities.

Is codependence hiding behind your intelligence while masking itself as strength? 
Many codependent patters are hidden behind “smarts” and a reliance on brute strength of will to endure feelings we don’t understand. Although many of the same FEARs exist at the core, this group has greater “grit” to bear it. They also have a belief in their ability to hide it from the world and even themselves. People driven by their mind have difficulty identifying and understanding their emotions and many have learned to simply power through. They tend to think their feelings and rationalize (tell themselves rational lies) about the reasons why they feel poorly. They suffer from stress so they also tend to act impulsively; often using control as a way of getting their needs met. People in this group have either been falsely accused of being a narcissist or wondered themselves if they are one.

The cycle of masking our feelings and hiding or managing our codependence with sheer will is dysfunctional and feels awful. This is why some simply choose to leave relationships or deny themselves the experience of being in close relationships because it’s easier to keep their emotions “in check” without them. If a lack of understanding your emotions and codependence is the culprit, you will continue to long for a level of intimacy that feels unobtainable. A desire to appear strong mixed with a FEAR of “not being able to handle it” will harm your chances of having the intimacy and true connection you crave.

Give yourself an opportunity to heal your codependence and come to the realization that you are much better at relationships than you think you are!!

If you answer yes to two or more of these questions, chances are your codependence is covertly creating more difficulty in your life than you may think.

Relationships don’t need to feel so confusing. Crack Your Codependency Code begins in May! CLICK HERE to see all the details and to sign up for a class that will change the way you feel in life and in your relationships… Especially the relationship you have with yourself! I would love to see you there!


 If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out!

You'll find more details below!

Meeting Dates and Times:
 
Thursday, May 4, 2023
  Thursday, May 11, 2023
 Thursday, May 18, 2023
  Thursday, May 25, 2023
Thursday, June 1, 2023
 Thursday, June 8, 2023
   Thursday, June 15, 2023
   Thursday, June 22, 2023
   Thursday, June 29, 2023

  Classes will be held live from:  7pm - 9pm (ET) / 4-6pm (PT)    
All classes will be recorded and replays will be available within 24 hours and will be posted to the course portal

Fee:
$500 
* $16 additional fee for credit card processing